Being a “Social Media Dominatrix” Feeds Your Insecurities. Here’s How to Overcome That

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There’s no shame in being insecure. We all deal with our own insecurities every day. The most important thing is to address it so it doesn’t become an obstacle on your journey to reaching your goals. Especially if you’re a social media Dominatrix.

In the age of social media, people value popularity over being skilled at what they do, or even being a nice person. Because of this, it’s not a stretch to believe the false narrative of “the more followers you have, the more you’re liked”. Having a high follower count has begun to negate the need for having actual connections with other human beings. Simultaneously people with a “low” follower count (low being subjective) will start to believe they aren’t liked as much as others.

The online world has given us the ability to be whoever we want. This can be both beautiful and dangerous. Doubly so if you’re a social media Dominatrix. Online social channels can be used to interact with your submissives and your peers in positive ways. You can have a wonderful play session that leaves you both feeling happy and fulfilled. On the other hand, it can disguise unfair treatment of others, and cruel abuse as safe and consensual play because of the amount of “likes” a post has.

Don’t fall into the distraction

There’s a common pitfall that a social media Dominatrix can fall into, where they’re more concerned with what’s happening online than focussing on their own business. More screen time means more chances to see what your peers are doing and how they are either showing their failures or successes. That potentially means feeding into more unhappiness.

I’m a Financial Dominatrix. It’s part of My fetish to brag about how successful I am and how much I’ve achieved on the back of my submissives. But there’s a chance you might even consider Me “toxic” to your mental health. So if that’s the case, please unfollow me. At the end of the day, we’re all a bunch of strangers. Nobody owes anyone a reason to follow each other on social media and it’s best to continually check how your own timeline makes you feel.

We’re all fraudsters, really

We all embellish the truth a little. We all want to portray the best sides of ourselves, and we might want to add a little sugar on top to make ourselves look a bit sweeter.

Social media can also create an unhealthy body image in many users. As more celebrities and influencers post pictures of faces and bodies that aren’t humanly achievable without the aide of photo editing apps or surgery, more people look at themselves with harsher judgements.

Many think that being a good Dominatrix is based on how you look but really it has so little has to do with that. It’s about having good mental health, high levels of intelligence, having a strong focus on BDSM practices and understanding the psychology of submissives.

In a world that’s becoming increasingly reliant on being online for everyday life, how can you combat the negative feelings that might creep up on you?

Time to tackle your insecurities head on

Here are some things to remember when you are spending time online

  • The vast majority of pictures posted to social media are heavily edited and staged. Most of what you see won’t be the reflection of real life.
  • Take time to ask yourself why participating in social media causes feelings of insecurity in you. What work do you need to do to strengthen your mental health?
  • Think about your life goals. Constantly remember what they are and what you need to do to achieve them.
  • Focus on the positives of social media. Look to your social media friends as motivation. There’s no such thing as a competing with your peers as they are only competing with themselves, and so should you.
  • Take regular breaks from social media. Even be strict and say you won’t be online over certain days just so you can focus on your real world relationships and happiness. If the negatives of social media outweigh the positives, then you definitely need to spend less time online. It’s important to address the balance of being offline to online.
  • The people you follow on Twitter (or anywhere else) are normal, everyday people with their own insecurities and anxieties. You might want to idolise them, but don’t forget they are human just like you too.
  • ALWAYS practice unconditional self-love and self-awareness. You are the priority in your own world and always will be.
  • Unfollow, mute and/or block ANYONE you think is toxic or expresses unwanted views/opinions.

So what did you think of this article? Did it help you at all? Do you have any other tips you want to share? Please comment below.

Written exclusively for Female Fetish Federation

2 responses to “Being a “Social Media Dominatrix” Feeds Your Insecurities. Here’s How to Overcome That”

  1. Great advice!! Sometimes it’s hard to remember that my follower count stagnating isn’t a terrible thing because it’s about the quality of the followers.

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