Can And Should White Dommes Partake In Racial Humiliation?

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My short answer is “yes”.

My long answer is “yes, but only if they actually understand it”.

For 8 years, I have been a Black Domme subject to racial abuse, passive aggressiveness and insecurity from white Dommes. A few months ago the police logged 3 dog leads sent to My house by 2 white Dommes (and a questionable 3rd Domme) with notes attached saying “white charity” and “DogLeadsMatter” as a racial hate crime. They both had no idea that this was wrong. I bring this up first because white Dommes have to know what racism is, be able to apply the appropriate behaviour when addressing race, and know how to understand the depths of consensual racial humiliation in kink. 

Doing things that others just don’t understand 

Taboo kinks have always been of great interest to Me. One of My personal favourites is racial humiliation/play. I really do enjoy turning the perceived social hierarchy upside down, the “wrongness” and the actual humiliation of it all. Getting to the root of why this fetish even turns men on in the first place is just so fascinating too. I studied Psychology at A-Level and ever since then I’ve always had an interest in getting to know humans at their core. 

As Dommes, we spend a lot of time talking to men. But I always wonder, do Dommes actually make attempts to understand them? During My time I’ve gotten to know and understand who My submissives are… and all Dommes should. My play is hard, and often brutal, but it also has lots of education and nurturing entwined into it. I’m kinda like the sexy & cruel Black Female teacher they never had. I hear all kinds of stories from funny and innocent little fetishes to full blown and incredibly harrowing traumas. I have to take all of these things into account when I am allowing a boy into My space to enjoy a kink that might not be received so well in open spaces, and by the general public.

“He paid me to do it, so I did it”

When I used to work in offices, I used to always boss My bosses. I dominate now because throughout My life I was always told how strong and powerful I was. Domination is a natural fit for Me and I do things because I want to do them. In all honesty, I see a “service” type approach very often from white Dommes, especially when it comes to practicing racial humiliation. But I never thought that Dommes just did things without giving them a second thought. When did we go back to just doing whatever men asked or told us to do? Especially where money is concerned, is it really worth doing something we really don’t like or understand… for a pitiful £70/$100?

Recently I was tagged in a Twitter conversation showing a white Domme partaking in racial humiliation, but what bothered Me most was that she did it and didn’t even agree with it. 

“He paid me to do it”.

That got Me thinking about Hollywood actors and actresses that play racist characters in movies. They spend months researching and learning about racism, race, ethnicities, cultures, and understanding what it means to play these parts. It’s not something they just do without thinking deeply about it, and their characters are part of a much larger story. I cannot think of a single actor who has played a racist for 10-20 straight minutes. They at least break character, or show a different side of themselves, or it cuts to a different scene. So for a Domme who can act straight racist without thinking about it at all, or practice racial humiliation for that amount of time, perhaps that’s showing something else about themselves…?

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Racial humiliation is deeper than you think

I don’t get paid to do racial humiliation. White boys in particular might request to explore this with Me, but I use it educate them into understanding their natural inferiority whilst being able to enjoy the “benefits” of their white privilege. Whether they want to learn something from Me or not, I give them no choice. Even them getting to serve Me is their white privilege. I make reference to their race and how their ignorance makes them believe they are the kings of the world. The educated amongst us knows the genetic weakness in them. Alternatively with Black and Indian men I tell them how much of a disappointment they to our people by acting so weak. 

A white Domme she saw I arranged a conversation on racial humiliation with other Dommes. She then sent Me this brilliant article – Racism or Race Play: A Conceptual Investigation of the Race Play Debates. Susanne Schotanus begins with writing about a “racist (white) woman” who won a ManyVids award in 2017. After the outrage, “ManyVids removed all “race play” videos from the site, accompanied by a public statement that conflated race play and racism”.

I had a racial humiliation video flagged by ManyVids last year.

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Once I explained to them that My video is without slurs, and simply refers to Black men not living up to the standards that is expected of them, they reinstated the video. 

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ManyVids impressed Me by displaying a willingness to understand that racial humiliation can be done with real thought. 

Schotanus’ article addresses so many complex issues. It highlights the tensions between “collective identities and personal agency, and between the concepts of reality and fantasy”. Representation often leads “outsiders” to have personal opinions on the “insiders”, due to a difficulty and/or inability to separate fact from fiction. 

“It’s just a bunch of offensive verbal abuse”

White Dommes who engage in race play seem to use slurs without thought, whereas Black and Brown Women use kink to educate and address the pain in our histories. Slurs against non-white people have so much hurt and deep rooted offence and so using them needs to be done with incredibly high levels of awareness. White Dommes get asked to do racial humiliation more than others would like to admit, and it’s a good thing to explore this kink, but I generally see that white Dommes just don’t understand race. How to talk about it and how to address it. In 2020 they were self serving, bragging about and tagging their Black friends, posting Black squares on their social media, or tweeting #BLM. That was enough for them to think they knew about Black people, but it was a new arrogance and ignorance I didn’t enjoy seeing.

We all know about white race, culture and ethnicity so why can’t we ask for the same in return? I recently encouraged a white Domme to engage in race play so she could actually make attempts to understand races other than her own. She seemed unaware of how uncomfortable Black people are made to feel by white people not being able to relate to, or understand on a basic level, what we have to talk about. I can literally see white Dommes squirm as soon as I say I am Black, or want to address something that affects Black men and Women. 

“Can I use the n-word… please?”

Recently I hosted a brilliant panel with some other Dommes for DomCon NOLA Virtual 2020 and a white Domme asked the question “I’ve been asked by Black subs to do racial humiliation and I don’t feel comfortable with doing it. What should I do?” My first thought is always, “why do they always ask us this?”, second thought is “Why are they questioning whether to do things they aren’t even comfortable with?”.

A few years ago a Domme (who I mentioned at the start of this article, now with a racial hate crime police warning) just completely out of the blue ask Me at a fetish event in the UK for permission to use the n-word with her Black sub. That one shocked Me so much to My core that I couldn’t even respond for a few seconds. She thought it was appropriate to ask Me that because I was the only Black Domme in the club, and the only Black Domme she knew at the time. 

Why do White Dommes feel they need a Non-white Domme’s permission to do this, and why are they not just keeping their kinks between them and their submissives? Why are they that unaware when it comes to talk about race, or engaging in race play? Even if a sub asks them to use slurs, why are they ok to use them so freely without understanding what the words actually mean? Also, if someone online asks them for a racial humiliation, are they even sure what race they are? Can they even tell if the request is for racial humiliation, and not just for straight up racism? Quite often it’s racist white guys getting off on the abuse of Black men and you’ll see comments on tube sites showing this to be true.

“Racial humiliation is only for Black & Brown people against white”

This is simply not true. Kink and fetish is for everyone.

I used to have a white slave who absolutely loved being called racially derogatory names. I did it when I was young and inexperienced. But now I choose not to. I always think more intelligence can be applied as simply calling some a bad word is normally the “easy” route. It doesn’t take much thought to hurl a slur if you are oblivious to the power that these words hold.

I encourage white Dommes to really think about the racial humiliation they are going to do before they do it. Who is the submissive. Do they even know them, truly. Boundaries are first and foremost important. They should do it if they feel comfortable, but not for the money. They should do it to learn about ethnicity, and to step onto the path towards educating themselves. It’s a step to heal us as the one race – the human race. Read, research, discuss and understand, because non-white people are not here to teach you about things you should already know. 

So what did you think of this article? Please comment below

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9 responses to “Can And Should White Dommes Partake In Racial Humiliation?”

  1. I won’t involve myself in it. It just doesn’t sit right with me, since I’m completely opposed to racism in my vanilla life. And if I can’t divorce myself from that, I know full well I won’t do it well or enjoy it. Also, as a white Domme, I don’t think I’m clued up enough on how to conduct this fetish ethically.

  2. Personally I have a difficult time with race play, but your article gives me hope that one day I can be comfortable doing it while staying ethical and true to myself. Thanks for this excellent piece.

  3. This was a excellent read, thank you Miss Foxx. I often see White Dommes just tweeting such horrible things and I am shocked that they don’t think we can’t see what they say.

  4. Thank you for writing this article Miss Foxx I’m a big fan of yours. I’m an older black sub and I enjoy being racially humiliated the harsher the better but I seek out white Dom’s for it. A lot of them can’t get into my head of what I want and maybe it’s a lack of experience nowadays. I hope they read this.

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