Dommes Across The Pond: Mental Health – The Unrecognisable Diagnoses in Dominant Women with Siren SaintSin

mental health in dominant women

Discussing Mental Health seems to be one of those things that sadly Dommes just don’t feel comfortable with. There seems to be this unwritten rule that Dominatrices should have perfect mental health. Being in charge of submissive lives means that we are in conscious control. It’s a subconscious guideline that has been applied to us, and sometimes it makes understanding our own mental health that much more difficult to address. Subsequently, if we address our mental health, it might mean that our peers and our clients won’t take us seriously.

Do you know how “healthy” your mind is?

Women generally still encompass the submissive role in their lives, whether it be in relationships or careers. The struggle for equality can be traced back to the 15th Century. It has been fought more fiercely since the 1960s and there continues to be a small minority of women who believe in Women being in charge. In BDSM terms, this is known as Female Supremacy. We tap into our dominant qualities and assert our authority over our consenting submissives.

But what happens inside the mind of a Dominant Woman when she’s conflicted internally? Our upbringings tell us we need to cater to the wants to men. Sections of society tell us we needs to remain silent and conform. Feminism stipulates that all Women should get along conflict free. All of these things add to a struggle people may not know about, all because of how we present ourselves externally.

Talking is always the best way forward

I just finished 18 weeks of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. I’m a strong, well-spoken, outspoken and confident Woman but internally, My mind would overthink and ruminate over every problem I encountered. Sometimes they wouldn’t even be problems but My mind would inflate them to be. I used to try and deal with this by overworking, travelling a lot and overeating to escape whatever was playing on My mind.

The day I saw Siren SaintSin quote this tweet, I was astounded over how much it sounded like Me.

I had no idea that High-Functioning Anxiety was probably what I had. I say “had” because it’s not a recognised mental health diagnosis. This means that because I manage to find a way deal with My anxiety outwardly, I technically can be ok without support for it.

I contacted Siren to discuss this as well as the impacts of social media, personal friendships, therapies for self improvement, our relationships with our submissives and how we navigate through and confront our mental health within society. To talk to someone so similar, so intelligent and so aware of her own struggles, was a truly great conversation. I hope this video gives you the courage to reach out and talk about any issues you may have.

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You can also contact: Pineapple Support, The Cupcake Girls, and NHS UK. Each of these has free help and resources for dealing with anxiety, OCD, depression, eating disorders, drug and alcohol abuse and much more.

What are your experiences with mental health in BDSM? Have you identified you need some support? Have any questions or concerns? Please let us know in the comments.

Also, if you have other topics you’d like us to discuss, we want to know.

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One response to “Dommes Across The Pond: Mental Health – The Unrecognisable Diagnoses in Dominant Women with Siren SaintSin”

  1. This was such a beautifully brave chat, so thank you for having it. I have been struggling with depression for many years and I have just tried to “deal with it” myself. I’ve been worried about approaching a doctor because then it really does feel like something is wrong with me. I’m a bit more encouraged to get the help I need now, so thank you

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