Enough of slut shaming and victim blaming – women aren’t responsible for sexual assaults.

Slut shaming is something that women are used to, whether they’re sexually active or not. Women can’t win, whatever they do. They’re condemned for being sexual, yet expected to satisfy male needs. And this slut shaming doesn’t just come from men: it’s particularly disappointing when it comes from a fellow female.

Witness Chrissie Hynde, in an interview in the Sydney Morning Herald:

How you dress and how you present yourself to the world is totally how people will treat you. All these so-called feminists who complain because people treat them like they’re hookers? Well, put some clothes on! If you walk around looking like a sex worker you will probably be treated like one, and if you walk around in a nurse’s uniform people will call you when they’re sick. And if you walk around dressed like a roadie, like I do, people will leave you the f— alone.

Enough of slut shaming

Slut-shaming and victim blaming? Oh dear, Chrissie. Making women responsible for their sexual assault is not the sisterhood we need and deserve. Nor are we responsible for making men not want to rape us. Try educating men and putting resources into rape crisis centres.

Assault has nothing to do with what a woman is wearing. Assault is about power, control, and entitlement. And even if a woman is wearing nothing but her birthday suit, that is not an invitation to touch her. Under Hynde’s logic, women in bikinis are asking for it. Maybe we should all wear burkinis on the beach, or sign up for a real-life Handmaid’s Tale.

Stop blaming the victim

But the fact is that women get assaulted whatever they wear. They could be in a sack, and a rapist isn’t going to say “well, I’ll leave her alone and go for the one wearing five-inch heels.” It’s victim blaming, and it’s abhorrent. The tired old trope that women are responsible for their sexual assault needs to be put to rest. There’s only one person responsible for sexual assault and rape, and that’s the man who perpetrates these crimes.

And then there’s the whorephobia. Hynde is as good as arguing that sex workers deserve to be victimised because of what they wear. I wonder if she has something against women who show their sexuality? Because whether they monetise their sexuality or not, women have the right to wear what the hell they please and lead their lives without fear of attack. Hynde’s holier than thou comment that she avoided assault by dressing like a man is judgmental and ignores the reality that women live.

Written exclusively for Female Fetish Federation

One response to “Enough of slut shaming and victim blaming – women aren’t responsible for sexual assaults.”

  1. I agree with everything in this article. It doesn’t matter what you wear, you’re a potential victim.

    I’ve read and seen pictures from an art exhibition that had the outfits of victims of sexual assaults hanging on the walls with a written piece about the circumstances around the assault.

    Some of the outfits were things like big baggy sweatpants and a turtleneck jumper. One was flannel pajama bottoms and oversized college t-shirt with stains down the front and slippers.

    What you wear does not make a difference!

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