Getting a Domme’s Title Right Is Important – Make an Effort

There are many titles for Dommes. They can be called Mistress, Miss, Madame, Ma’am, Lady, Queen, Princess, Daddy, Mommy or a name they’ve invented themselves. So subs, it’s important that you use the correct title when addressing them. Whether you’re trying to engage with them on social media or contacting them because you’re interested in a session, you need to use the proper title and spelling. But why is this so important? Well, there’s a few reasons.

It’s respectful

Using a Domme’s preferred title shows respect and a willingness to adhere to their rules which will get you off to a good start. If you don’t care about addressing her in the way she wants, why should she expect any better from you after that? You’re indicating that her requirements aren’t important to you. She chose a title and she expects you to respect that. It doesn’t take much effort to get it right.

It shows you’ve done your research

We put a lot of effort into writing profiles and making it clear how we expect to be approached. If you use the correct title when you first deal with a Domme, it shows that you’ve read her social media or her website and that you’ve seen how she prefers to be addressed. This will immediately make you stand out from the crowd of messages she most likely receives every day.

You’re treating her as an individual

Dommes hate being treated as a generic mistress. We don’t want to deal with subs casting a wide net to catch any mistress. Using a title that we have specifically stated we don’t like and ignoring the one that we request, tells us that you’re probably sending a cut-and-paste message to dozens of Dommes. And the result will likely be the same for all of them. We’re going to delete it and ignore you.

You’re not just a ‘do-me’ sub

Getting messages addressed to ‘Mistress’, when we’ve specifically stated that we don’t want to be called by this name or that we use another title, indicates to us that you’re a sub who just wants his needs satisfied. Please remember that we’re human as well and not just selections in a Domme vending machine.

First impressions count and we really don’t like laziness or disrespect. So read her profile, scan her social media, and work out her preferred title. It will definitely earn you points. You want a positive response, right? Then don’t assume that it’s Mistress. This could be particularly insulting if she is non-binary and prefers a title like Mxtress. It really doesn’t take much effort to get a Domme’s title right.

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One response to “Getting a Domme’s Title Right Is Important – Make an Effort”

  1. Yes!! This is so annoying when subs do that. I’m not into Adult Baby play so when a sub calls me mommy it really annoys me. Especially if I’ve corrected them already.

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