Growing up in a conservative, religious country isn’t easy. Mistress Sorrow is fighting back!

I adore supporting my fellow Irish Dommes. Coming from a country heavily influenced by the Catholic church with a lot of stigma around sex, especially the kink scene, is tough. The BDSM world in Ireland is still very much something that is underground, and this includes sex work.

I came across Mistress Sorrows’ profile and fell in love with her political standpoint and defiance to work towards Sex Worker rights. This of course is something that is very important to everyone in the kink world. We should be allowed (and encouraged) to practice our sexual desires, whatever they may be (once legal and not harming anyone) safely and freely. This is what drew me in to her profile and made me want to know more!

“Your Curses Are Your Gifts”

Growing up in Ireland in the 70’s/80’s was tough if you were any way “different”. Mistress Sorrows was born intersex and at a young age went through non-medically necessary binary-affirming surgery. She went on to suffer hormone-related sleep disorders where she would be awake 6 days a week but also suffer bouts of narcolepsy but thankfully this subsided once receiving hormone replacement therapy. A lot to go through as a kid! The way she dealt with this was amazing.

What intrigued me the most was her telling me of her love of drawing comic strips (From as young as four or five) featuring FemDom Harpies (Mythical Greek creatures), lesbian vampire bondage scenes all in between Catholic imagery. On querying where her influences came from, she said it was just always kind of within her. Her love of drawing led her to become a tattoo artist and owning her own shop while living in Austin, Texas.

Finding Freedom

In Texas she found so much more freedom than back home in Ireland to be herself and explore the world of FemDomme and the kink scene. Although having moved back to Ireland, she still stays in contact with many of the wonderful people she met in the kink scene in Austin, where she lived for seven years. Since 2013 she’s been working professionally as a Domme (between full-time and part-time) by holding phone sessions, live sessions and making FemDomme porn, before partnering with a dungeon in Austin.

While holding a session with a client, she loves engaging the senses with them and using a juxtaposition of textures, she also loves the healing and psychology elements. She’s currently finishing off her undergrad studies in psychology. This makes her brilliant at seeing what itch her clients need scratching and helping them with this, so they leave with a spring in their step.

When looking at kink, she’s found the most important things in the kink world are understanding and practicing consent and being “in general an ethical and wonderful human being”. Her positive outlook on this is brilliant. Of course, things aren’t always perfect, and she has found that, especially in Ireland, there is a lot of misogyny. This holds true even within the kink world where you’d expect people to be more open and accepting.

This is not the first time I’ve heard this from other Dommes – that there is still a lot of cases of misogyny that they face and that it can be a real issue. But this is something that, if we work together, we can try to squash. But it needs to be shouted loud and clear so our heads of state can also hear!

She’s currently finishing off her undergrad studies in psychology. This makes her brilliant at seeing what itch her clients need scratching and helping them with this, so they leave with a spring in their step. When looking at kink, she’s found the most important things in the kink world are understanding and practicing consent and being “in general an ethical and wonderful human being”.

Her positive outlook on this is brilliant. Of course, things aren’t always perfect, and she has found that, especially in Ireland, there is a lot of misogyny. This holds true even within the kink world where you’d expect people to be more open and accepting. This is not the first time I’ve heard this from other Dommes – that there is still a lot of cases of misogyny that they face and that it can be a real issue.

But this is something that, if we work together, we can try to squash. But it needs to be shouted loud and clear so our heads of state can also hear!

An important message

I enjoyed talking to Mistress Sorrows so much. She was so knowledgeable, she even taught me things about Ireland I didn’t know; so warm and interesting to talk to. I adore a woman who’s political and knows their facts!

If you follow her Twitter page, she’ll keep you up to date on sex worker rights and any activist movements. While speaking with her, her words were so fluid and eloquent that I can imagine availing of any of her services would be pleasurable for the ears, never mind the rest!

If you want to follow her on Twitter, go to: @MistressSorrows

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Written exclusively for Female Fetish Federation

4 responses to “Growing up in a conservative, religious country isn’t easy. Mistress Sorrow is fighting back!”

  1. Mistress Sorrows sounds like she’d be great for a new sub to ease them in. I’m interested to know would she do mentoring for a baby Domme?

  2. Wow!! Mistress Sorrows sounds phenomenal!! Not only in her approach but also her mind just seems amazing! What an amazing woman. I wonder what exactly she does as far as working for sex workers rights? I must follow her on Twitter and find out!

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