Household Kink And How To Get Kinky With Unexpected Items

Often when I’m speaking to people at munches, particularly the newbies, they’ll mention the high cost of specialized gear. It’s true that we can spend hundreds of dollars on a single whip or flogger, let alone a piece of furniture adapted to play. My response is often the same: look around in unexpected places and you’ll find things to use without investing in toys that you may not even enjoy. I adore going to garage sales and hardware stores to find objects that can be perverted for use in a BDSM scene. Here’s a list of household kink ideas for you if you’re just starting out, have a limited budget, or are simply looking for something fresh.

I’m assuming you’re already aware of SM 101: RACK/SSC, safer play, trusting your partner, establishing safe words and the like. If not, stop here and go read some articles about consent, hygiene, and healthy relationships. That is absolutely essential before you think about playing!

Where to begin for household kink

Let’s start in my favorite room of the house; the kitchen. There are of course wooden spoons and spatulas for impact play. Different materials will procure different sensations (and sounds!). Here is a diagram for safe places to spank.

Locations you can use your household kink items
Green is good, yellow is a maybe, red is a no.

How about a fork? Tracing it over the delicate skin of your partner can send goosebumps all over. Or what about running it through their hair? Makes me shiver just thinking about it! 

Butcher twine can be used for finger/toe bondage, nipple torture or CBT. Make sure that you always have safety scissors on hand if you do any sort of bondage in case things get too tight. While part of the joy of BDSM is fear-based, the first priority is always the safety of you and your partner. 

Ice is great fun for sensation play. Run it all over your partners body, letting it drip everywhere. If they’re a bit masochistic, combine it with salt, which drops the temperature of the ice and can cause minor burns. 

Kitchen utensils provide all manner of fun.

Ginger is commonly used for a practice called ‘figging’. You take a peeled piece of ginger and insert it into the anus. It is a slow-building burn that is just delightful. Some people go much further with other things that burn, but I always recommend to start slow and build up. Remember that you can always intensify things next time, but coming back from an overly-intense session is no fun for anyone. 

How about making your partner kneel on dry rice? You might not think much of it at first, but after a few minutes, it can be quite a challenge. I like to make my submissives pick up the grains afterwards. Makes for a good lesson in patience.

If you want to get a little more dangerous, knives make delightful toys. Blindfold your partner and run two blades together next to their ears. That alone with get them quivering with anticipation. Then run the cold blades over their skin, delicately tracing the most sensitive areas. Remember that there are two sides to a knife so play safe. Especially when you’re doing psychologically intense play.

I’m a big fan of what is called splosh, or food play. This can involve any number of things such as throwing food at your partner, rubbing it all over their body, or chewing and spitting it at them. It is both fun and humiliating. There is something so childish and regressive about it that generally I often end up laughing uncontrollably during splosh sessions. 

Speaking of food and humiliation, you can make your submissive eat from a dog dish on the floor. This is a quick way to dehumanize them, and a popular form of degradation. Want to take it a step further? They become a pig who rolls around in their food. Force them to make little piggy noises while they’re splashing around. Don’t forget to put down a tarp before as this gets really messy. 

Or how about using aromatics to play with smells? Prepare several spices, fruits, and vegetables before your session. Blindfold your sub and make them guess what each smell is. For each one they get correct, you can reward them. For each one that they miss, well, punishment time! 

Playing with smells can be exciting

Chopsticks can be used for a number of games. You can bind them together with rubber bands to create clamps for nipples, ears, toes, the tongue, or just about any other protruding body part. You can fasten them with Saran Wrap or bondage tape to the shins and tap on them. It feels to the submissive as if you’re tapping directly on the bones. My favorite is to use them to dilate the anus or the vagina. Start with 8 chopsticks in a condom, then insert one at a time in the middle until you get to 30, 40, 50… or more. One of my partners took in 100, but we’ve been doing this practice for a long time so start slow to be safe. I think I could have gone further, but I ran out of chopsticks!

Cellophane is fantastic for bondage if you don’t have specialized equipment (or even if you do). It’s cheap, versatile, very restrictive, and you can cut holes out to access areas that you want to play with. I often use Saran Wrap for fornophelia, the art of transforming a human into an inanimate object such as a table, a desk, a lamp, a toilet or anything else that you can think of which is the essence of household kink.

Laundry pegs are one of the most popular household items for BDSM play. You can safely put them pretty much everywhere on the body. Trust me, I’ve tested this! I have hundreds (thousands?) of different laundry pegs, depending on what  I want to torture. Something to think about is that when removing them, it actually hurts worse than when putting them on, as the blood rushes back to the area. Take advantage of that by pressing on that area. You can remove them in a number of ways, such as with a flogger or by making a “zipper” with a string attached to the pegs.

Rubber bands are a great toy. Wrap them around body parts, pull and release. Depending on the strength of the rubber bands and the distance you pull, it can be quite painful. You can string multiple rubber bands together to go around the torso. Be careful as this often leaves marks on the body, especially sensitive areas like the stomach, the sides, or insides of the arms and legs. Better to check in with your partner if they’re going to the beach and don’t want to answer questions about the marks. 

Bottle caps are great for using with bondage. I’ll slip a bottle cap between a rope and the skin. When left for a longer period of time, it can be quite a nagging pain. A few years ago we had two submissives run a race with bottle caps taped to the soles of their feet. That was a blast to watch!

Using dice or playing cards can be fun.  Write a list of six things that you want to do and have them determine their own fate. Have your select a card to determine the number of spankings they will get, how many orgasms they will have in a week, how long they have to stay in a certain position, and so on. 

This is, of course, just the beginning. You just need to look around and get creative with the things you have on hand to really dive in to household kink.

By Inanna Justice

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