Some Women don’t mind the names but for Me, I don’t allow Myself to be called those things. I reserve them for My submissives as degradation and humiliation are two of some of My favourite kinks. I remember how these words were used, still are used, and so many people do too.
Queen Latifah wrote one of my favourite songs and these lyrics always jumped out to me:
“U.N.I.T.Y., Love a black woman from (You got to let him know)
infinity to infinity (You ain’t a bitch or a ho)”
“Instinct leads me to another flow
Everytime I hear a brother call a girl a bitch or a ho
Trying to make a sister feel low
You know all of that gots to go”
I understand that there are groups of people who tried to claim back words used by their oppressors however, using these words does make it very confusing to other people as think they still have a right to use these derogatory terms. We see it all the time that other races and sexual orientations use these words, even when they’re not trying to use them as insults.
Inside the broad spectrum of sex workers (namely Dominatrices, FemDommes and FinDommes) Women are trying to claim back bitch and hoe/whore but everyday people are still using these terms to degrade us.
bitch [ bich ]
- A female canine animal, especially a dog.
- offensive slang
- a malicious, unpleasant, selfish person, especially a woman.
- a lewd woman.
- Disparaging and Offensive. any woman.
- slang a complaint
- slang a difficult situation or problem
- slang a person who acts as a subordinate or slave to another person
whore [ hawr, hohr or, often, hoor ]
- A prostitute.
- Often Offensive A person considered sexually promiscuous
- A person considered as having compromised principles for personal gain.
Dictonary.com isn’t listing the terms as compliments. Maybe one day the definitions will change to be compliments, and sure, language usage does change over time but ultimately I don’t believe it is actually impossible to claim any derogatory word for your own community, because there will always be somebody using it who you don’t approve of.
My Female friends and fellow sex workers we call each other Queens. We never use the term “b*tch”, because we see each other elevated higher than society has placed us. Queen is royal, Queen is regal and Queen is respected.
So what do you think? Do you call your fellow Females bitches and whores (even if they aren’t prostitutes) and why? Comment below!