A Twitter conversation started by Remi Ferdinand caught our attention today. Check out the screenshots in the tweet below.
So firstly, who is Ashley Madison?
It was founded in 2002 by Darren Morgenstern, with the slogan: “Life is short. Have an affair.” The name comes from two popular female names in North America, “Ashley” and “Madison.”
The company received attention on July 15, 2015, after hackers stole all of its customer data – including emails, names, home addresses, sexual fantasies and credit card information – and threatened to post the data online if Ashley Madison and fellow Avid Life Media site EstablishedMen.com were not permanently closed.
By July 22, the first set of customer names were released by hackers, with all of the user data released on August 18, 2015. More data (including some of the CEO’s emails) was released on August 20, 2015.
The release included data from customers who had previously paid a $19 fee to Ashley Madison to supposedly have their data deleted. The fee was also applied to people who had accounts set up against their will, as a workplace prank, or because of a mistyped email address.Taken from Wikipedia
Not a good start, right?
So how can this company claim that having an affair with a horny housewife is safer than a professional escort?
Professional escorts livelihoods depend on practicing safe sex. Without a clean bill of health they won’t be able to pay their bills at home. This really doesn’t need much more explanation than this.
But what needs more understanding is that escorts are not the robots people think they are. They are professionals, and human beings with feelings like we all are and deserve an equal amount of respect. Some people sell their bodies, some people sell their time, some people sell their souls, and some people sell their morals. We are all sell ourselves whether we choose to admit it or not.
Escorts are “dirty girls” (not in a good way)
Ashley Madison then go on to say “Most of what we know about escorts is from pop culture and crime dramas, but that doesn’t reflect the amount of dirty girls (not in a good way) that roam the streets on the sex trade.”. This means they are claiming to be experts on this subject but also sound like they have never even met a sex worker before.
What is interesting to us are these statistics of people who are having extra marital sexual relationships potentially on Ashley Madison.
We tried to find statistics that compare the sexual risks of sex workers on the street with “regular people”. We read results that said you are “xxx” more times likely but these studies were from 2006 and there should be more recent information to go on to make more accurately informed opinions right?
So let’s look at it this way. Most of us will have sex with another person who isn’t a professional sex worker, and in that time there is a greater risk of contracting an STD because you are generally having sex more often. We know as a society there will be a lot more promiscuous sex amongst regular people rather than with professionals because of the financial element. We can’t tell you the amount of times us as Women have had a man that says “it’s much better to have sex without a condom” purely because he is thinking of the feeling of his penis rather than the risks associated with unprotected sex.
Ashley Madison claim that an emotional relationship isn’t possible with an escort.
“Yes, an escort might offer a quick lay, but this isn’t important for men who are paying for a GFE. More and more married men are psychologically breaking from their marriages and Ashley Madison could be an outlet for venting, both physically and emotionally.”
As sex work grows faster and faster online we have access to more and more conversations. One’s that include escorts sharing stories on why clients come to them. Companionship, care and non judgement, something that can lack in regular society.
And this client shares his own experience with escorts
Sex workers alike, be it escorts, dominatrixes and kinksters are all disclosing information about the levels of emotional connections they make with their clients.
Ashley Madison has no right to shame professional Female sex workers as hard as they have. It is entirely possibly to make any brand stand alone without putting other professionals down. The people running this company again, have a lot to answer for and their Wikipedia page is a wrap sheet for all their wrong doings. They are in no position to criticise others.
Ultimately everyone should practice safe sex no matter the type they engage in. Look after yourselves, get tested regularly and never be afraid to ask your sexual partner “when was the last time you were tested?”
You can read more more advice about sexual health at Flo.Health
Thank you to Remi for sharing these screenshots. Do you agree with extra marital affairs? Do you think they are better or worse than hiring escorts? Make your comments below!