The Beginner’s Guide to BDSM Part 5 – The World of Cuckolding

Cuckolding

There’s something so delicious about multiple fetishes intertwining to create one amazing experience. A scene that features one fetish is great. Two, amazing! But three or more…Mmmmmmm! Am I greedy? Maybe. But it also may just be that when I find the perfect mix of different fetishes and kinks together it heightens the senses and everything feels that more intense. For me, Cuckolding does this. It incorporates Voyeurism, Exhibitionism, Tease and Denial and can even include Humiliation (Only if that’s been agreed upon prior to the session). I find Cuckolding to be a feast for the senses and so I figured it would be a great one to share with you all. I enjoy Cuckolding in a slightly different way to the “typical” stereotype you find in porn, but I’ll explain that as we go on.

What is Cuckolding?

A cuck scene playing out
Both women and men can enjoy being a Cuckold

To Cuckold a partner is to have sex with another with their knowledge. E.g. A wife has sex with another man while her husband is in the same room or another room.

A Cuckold can also be an outside person watching the couple have sex.

The key thing to note here is that the person being Cuckolded is not allowed to join in on the sex. They know about it, they may be allowed to watch, but they cannot join in.

How can Cuckolding be fun?

Cuckolding offers new worlds to explore
It’s great when a Cuckold gets on well with both partners

There are two different perspectives that can be enjoyed when in a Cuckolding session. Being part of the couple or being the Cuckold. Each have really wonderful elements.

Being part of the couple

This is my favourite position to be. There’s so much to play with here. I love the exhibitionism element. There’s nothing I love more than people watching me have sex. I get to put on a show while enjoying myself. Tease & Denial is one of my favourite kinks so this plays in to Cuckolding perfectly. I love to turn on others while teasing them. Being part of the couple having sex means that I get to tease the person watching and soak up their lust. It makes my orgasms that bit more erotic and intense. It’s even more fun if the Cuck is interested in Humiliation because it adds another level to that play.

Being the Cuckold

For a Submissive person, being a Cuckold may be an ultimate fantasy. If they’re in a relationship with one of the pair having sex, then it can be thrilling to know that their partner is being satisfied by another person. This can be due to just wanting them to have everything they desire and enjoy the idea of their partner having sex while they’re denied, or it can be part of a Humiliation fetish. With or without verbal humiliation, Cuckolding can be a thrilling form of humiliation for a Submissive. If humiliation is what the Cuckold is after, then the thrill could come from the idea that they cannot sexually satisfy their partner, but this outside person can. The idea that they’re so ‘useless’ sexually that their partner has to find someone else they’re rather have sex with.

*Cuckolding does not have to include humiliation so please do not practice humiliation without consent first

Different types of Cuckolding

There's many ways you can be a cuck.
Online Dominants can enjoy having a Cuck from a distance using multiple different platforms

Your Cuck in the room – One option is with the Cuck sitting in the room observing the couple having sex but not allowed to touch. This is the version most popularly shown in porn.

You Cuck in other room/another location – This could be where the two partaking in sex go off into another room. The Cuck may be able to hear what’s going on or may just allow their imagination to go wild while being denied. Another scenario could be where the Cuck is left at home and their partner goes out to either “pick-up”/meet a known sexual partner.

Online Cuck – Earlier I mentioned that my favourite style of enjoying Cuckolding isn’t the style that’s typically shown in porn. That’s because I enjoy Cuckolding an online Submissive by having sex with my partner and denying the Submissive. This is a common one for online Dommes who have play partners. They can Cuck their Submissives virtually. This can be through sexting, pictures, videos, or a live show over one of the many platforms available.

This can be very fun and a great way of teasing your Sub while they serve. I like doing this with my Subs. I have had one Cuck who every time I wanted to have sex with my boyfriend, I’d message him, and he’d send me a “Cuck tax”. Then if he wanted a “sneak peek” he’d send more. I really enjoyed this because it fed into my FinDom turn on and my love of having sex with my boyfriend.

You can mix and match your kinks

Cuckolding is a lot of fun and can be enjoyed in a variety of ways. There are so many other kinks you can incorporate into this one fetish is amazing! Want to add in bondage? Sure! How about role play? Where’s my costume box?! Whether you’re part of the couple or the Cuck you’re going to have a good time! As, like any kink, it’s still important to have safe words, practice safe sex and make sure that consent is always given! Enjoy all you kinky folk!

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