The Beginner’s Guide to BDSM: Picking Your First Sex Toy

BDSM Guide to buying sex toys

When I got my first sex toy I was like a kid on Christmas! I was so excited! I took it out of the packaging immediately (I received it via courier) and turned it on to see all the vibration settings. It was a cute little turquoise wand, small enough to fit in a handbag for overnight trips. I didn’t care that my boyfriend was working on his laptop at the time, I had to try it out! Needless to say, he enjoyed the view and the distraction from work! I LOVED it! Here at FFFBuzz.com we have written articles about using household items for play. This is a great idea, let’s face it, toys can be expensive! But when you’re ready to take the plunge and you’ve saved up some money, how do you decide what toy is right for you? I’m going to give you some tips on how to pick out your first sex toy!

They Come in all sorts of shapes, sizes, and functions!

There’s so much selection out there! Pick what appeals to you.

You don’t have to get a dildo that looks exactly like a penis. Some people love how dicks look. Others don’t. So, if you don’t want a fleshy coloured, veiny looking dildo, then don’t get one. Get something a bit different that look appealing to you! Dildos come in all sorts of shapes and sizes and colours. Pick one that you find appealing. There’s lots of cool sex toys created to resemble mythical creatures if that’s your kink! Or you could get a vibrator or buttplug! Don’t restrict yourself. Find what appeals to you!

Do your research!

What works for your friend/partner may not work for you. Think about what it is YOU enjoy. When you’re playing, what excites you? Do you enjoy tickling and light touches? Do you prefer a rough internal pounding? Or is a bit of pain what gets you excited? Think about this when picking out what kind of toy you want. When doing your research, it’s important to read the manufacturers description carefully. Read the details about the materials used and the functions. Another great way to research your options is to read sex toy blogs. Find a blogger that resonates with you and have a look at the items they’ve reviewed. Try and find a person that enjoys the same sensations as you and listen to the pros and cons. Miss Ruby Reviews Is a sex toy reviewer who, not only is sex positive, but she is all inclusive in her language and non-judgemental in her approach. It’s a great blog for newbies looking for some honest advice on their first toy.

Make sure it’s ACTUALLY ‘Body Safe’

It’s important to check the materials in your toy

‘Body Safe’ products are a little more expensive but SO worth it! For one thing, they’ll last longer! If you save up and spend that bit more then you want to get your monies worth! So, what are ‘Body Safe’ materials? ‘Body Safe’ materials for sex toys are non-porous silicone, glass, and wood. (Hehehe pun intended but it’s also true!) Be sure to actually read the list of materials used to make the toy because a lot of manufacturers have copped on to the fact that consumers are now looking for the ‘Body Safe’ label. There are a growing number of manufacturers that will label their products as ‘safe’, when in fact they have used materials that aren’t.

LUBE, LUBE, LUBE!

Most toys require some lube. Lube makes your play time more comfortable and smoother. The thing is you need to make sure you’re using the right lube for the right toy. The last thing you want to do is use the wrong lube and then it erodes the materials in the toy! The safest bet is to go with a water-based lube! Water-based lube is least likely to have a reaction with the materials in the toys. The reason I am suggesting water-based lube is because very often silicone-based lube actually breaks down silicone toys! (Sounds like that shouldn’t be the case doesn’t it?!)

The take-home I want you to take from this article is; Don’t rush into your purchase. Do your research and find the right toy for you! Don’t just buy a toy because it’s the cheapest and you want one now. Save up those coins and buy a good quality product that you’ll get your monies worth out of and ENJOY your new toy(s)!

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3 responses to “The Beginner’s Guide to BDSM: Picking Your First Sex Toy”

  1. I had no idea that stores could get away with selling toys that aren’t “Body Safe”. That’s very concerning. I’ll definitely have to check the products I purchase more carefully from now on.

  2. Lube is EVERYTHING!!! I take a lot of time picking which lube I’m going to use. It’s so important, not only to help you look after your toys but your body too. Nothing worse than chaffing due to poor lube.

  3. You’re so right about how some toys work for some people but not all people. I remember hearing about cock rings and Durex did a vibrating one. My friends raved about them. Myself and my partner got one and it just wasn’t for us. It didn’t hit in the right places. At least they’re not expensive, it was worth a try.

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