The World of BDSM Is Full of Wonderfully Kinky S-Types (submissives)

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BDSM is full of various s-types. What’s an s-type? I’m glad you asked.

In a BDSM relationship, the dominant person (or top) is the one that takes the power, authority or control. This control is always given with the consent of everyone involved. The power exchange can last a few minutes, or a lifetime depending on the participants. 

The other person’s not necessarily submissive, but we refer to them as s-types or “bottoms.” This can include slaves, fetishists, masochists, sissies, cross-dressers, brats, pets, kinksters, littles, kajirus, toys and more. Sometimes there’s overlap between BDSM s-types, but we’ll get into that later. First, let’s look at some common bottoms. 

Submissives

A submissive is someone who consensually gives up power to another person. They agree to relinquish control in a scene or in a relationship. This can mean anything from letting the Dominant choose what the submissive wears, to controlling all aspects of their life. This is always done consensually! The Dominant is thought of as a coach, helping the submissive achieve goals they’ve decided on together. For example, if a sub wants to tone up his body, I’ll propose a workout routine for him. If he completes his tasks, he gets rewarded (this can be as simple as a ‘good boy’). If he doesn’t, there are consequences for his actions. Contrary to mainstream belief, not all submissives are masochists. Some are service-oriented and simply want to clean the house for the lady. Others prefer to contribute to the financial well-being of their Domme. 

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Slaves

Generally speaking, a slave is a submissive that’s given up their right to negotiate with their Domme. We call this “consensual non-consent.” A slave makes an initial decision to serve their Master or Mistress, then gives them total control. This often means there’s no safe word to stop a scene, nor is negotiation possible when the Dominant makes a choice. While a submissive has rights in a D/s relationship, a slave generally does not. They essentially become the property of their Dominant, and the Domme can do whatever they want with the slave. Please note that this is quite extreme and rare, even in long-term BDSM relationships. Prior to becoming a slave, a submissive generally has to serve the Dominant for a long time to prove they’re mentally sound to relinquish control. 

Fetishists

Fetishists have a fixation on a certain object. Quite often, they’re not submissive, but their object of adoration is vital for them to feel sexually satisfied. Some believe fetishists don’t fall into the D/s spectrum. There are however, lots of fetishists that find what they’re looking for within the framework of BDSM. We commonly think of foot or shoe fetishists (they’re quite common) but there are other types of fetishists as well. It could be a fetish for scarves, for certain types of material (often leather, vinyl and latex), for freshly painted fingernails, dirty socks, redheads or anything. I have one fetishist in my stable whom I joke with that I only exist from the knees down (he is a latex and foot fetishist). He is not at all submissive, but he needs to touch my latex-clad feet to feel sexually satisfied.

Fetish puppy
Fetish Puppy

Masochists

Masochists research pleasure through pain. When we think of the stereotypical scene of a leather-clad woman whipping her partner, that guy is probably a masochist. Many of the hard-core masochists I know aren’t submissive (despite their need to be humiliated and degraded). Masochism can also be self-inflicted, further validating that they aren’t always submissive.

Pleasure through pain
Pleasure through pain

Sissies and cross-dressers

Sissies and cross-dressers are men who wear women’s clothing, makeup, and behave in a typically feminine manner. Generally speaking, a sissy is “forced” by their Domme to dress as a woman, while a cross-dresser chooses to do it for themselves. They may or may not want to live their life as a woman, but there are different reasons that people are attracted to this practice. A person can simply be drawn to the aesthetics of dressing in more feminine clothing. Some find it humiliating to be dressed as a woman. I refuse to participate in cross-dressing sessions that are humiliation-based. I find absolutely nothing humiliating about being a woman. For others, it’s about breaking stereotypical views of masculinity and femininity. Some strive to create a more feminine connection with their Dominatrix.

There’s often a lot of crossover from these different roles. A slave can be a fetishist but not a masochist (here’s to hoping his Domme isn’t a sadist!). A cross-dresser isn’t necessarily submissive, but enjoys wearing beautiful women’s clothing. As with the entirety of BDSM practices, there are no rules except that there needs to be consent. Someone might identify as a submissive today, realize they’re a fetishist tomorrow, then want to be dressed up in high heels next week. Humans are constantly evolving both inside and outside of the framework of BDSM.

If you fluctuate between these different roles, no problem. Just keep it safe and keep it kinky!

Written by: Innana Justice

Twitter: @InnanaJustice

What S-Type are you in the bedroom? Let us know in the comments!

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3 responses to “The World of BDSM Is Full of Wonderfully Kinky S-Types (submissives)”

  1. I am a Submissive definitely. I give up control but I do need a safe word and be able to negotiate in order to feel safe.

  2. Wow!!! That sounds amazing!! What do you think your daughter would say? I bet your maid loves that cause she just has to manage him.

  3. I own a slave. He is my son in law actually. My daughter is abroad for a few years and doesn’t know anything about the arrangement.

    He has given me full control and I exercise it entirely now.
    I keep him caged all the time. He remains naked at home all the time. He does not have any male briefs. He only wears frilly panties under his clothes always.

    He does all the chores at home except cooking. My maid and I are his dommes. We punish him hard for any mistake or if we feel like it. We slap him. Whip him. Cane him. Piss on him. Make him eat Shit. Spit on him. Etc. Tie him up.

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