To get good at sex work and BDSM, you have to play good at sex work and BDSM

financial domination

“You’re a fraud”

That’s the only thing that kept ringing in my ears every morning as I would prepare to put up a nasty tweet in hopes to finally bait a sub. It all seemed so simple, from I what I had researched; be hot, be active and be mean. Oh, and demand money.

FinDom was introduced to me soon after I had uncovered another layer of sex worker Twitter. I was fascinated, young college students were doing it and making bank, established pro dommes were cashing in as well, and hell even some civvies who just happen to be cute enough for some random stranger with a crush on them to pledge their love with money, but why not me ?

Well, it turns out the psychology behind Financial Domination is one that comes by way of personality and self belief; skills that can’t be easily taught or transferred.

Let me rewind a bit. I became an active participant in sex work a little under 9 months ago. After years of debating with myself and finally taking the plunge, the safest place for me to practice was online. So I created a profile on a subscription based sex worker site, slowly integrated more of my desired alter ego into my Twitter feed, then sat back waiting for the subscribers to come.

Of course, it didn’t happen that way, so I did more digging and figured FinDom was the break I was looking for. That was when I learned who I really was. Sex work and BDSM are all about playing a character to the point you are it, and I realised without having done this offline, in the real world, I would never reap the success I wanted and feel accomplished. And I would always feel like an impostor.

Still, having banked very little, I persisted. As luck would have it, a gentleman I briefly interacted with approximately two years ago found himself longing to see me. He had recovered my contact details somehow, and after some negotiation became my sugar sub.

The voice telling me I was a fraud has now gone away, because I feel I am a findomme. I am no longer shouting into the abyss hoping the echoes don’t fall on life ears. I have yet to reach my ultimate goal, and consider myself a domme-in-training, and will continue to do so until this is everyday life.

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One response to “To get good at sex work and BDSM, you have to play good at sex work and BDSM”

  1. I found that it took a long long time to build up a decent following and earn a rep. I wish there’d been some kind of tutorial in fact! Would have saved me some time.

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