Dan Savage is a self proclaimed ” author, a sex-advice columnist, a podcaster, a pundit, and a public speaker.” and today he tweet the below:
Check out the amazing responses from Professional Dominatrices to the question:
Gear costs $$.— Mistress⛧Alexxxia 🎂 NOV 17 (@MissAlexxxia) November 12, 2019
Wardrobe costs $$.
Upkeep costs $$.
Renting a space costs $$.
Training in certain heavier forms of kink costs time, and $$.
Pro-domination is a luxury business. It is also a high-risk business. Those that respect the industry and us in it will treat it as such.
I spent ten years and tens of thousands of dollars studying kink all over the US before opening my prodomme practice. Then there's wardrobe, gear, and my space, for which I'd estimate I'm in at least $20k. Each hour I spend in session, I spend several doing administrivia,— 🔞 Seattle Femdom: Dominatrix Katherine Control (@SeattleFemdom) November 12, 2019
managing my intake funnel and follow-ups, maintaining my gear, and continuing my education.— 🔞 Seattle Femdom: Dominatrix Katherine Control (@SeattleFemdom) November 12, 2019
I do all of this in a socially and legally hostile environment, while paying punitive small business taxes, liability and health insurance, and all the other business expenses that
non-SWer small business owners pay.— 🔞 Seattle Femdom: Dominatrix Katherine Control (@SeattleFemdom) November 12, 2019
And as others have said here, when I'm interacting with clients, I hold far more of their well-being in my hands than any licensed counselor I know, while having to touch stranger's bodies with the grace and compassion of
a seasoned bodyworker.— 🔞 Seattle Femdom: Dominatrix Katherine Control (@SeattleFemdom) November 12, 2019
Tell me, if you had to do that for a living, what would you ask per hour to cover those start-up costs, ongoing expenses, and the emotional and physical labor of sessions, which depletes what you have available for loved ones?
Can’t speak to this but in general for highly skilled work “you are not paying for the hour of time. You are paying for the years of training”— izzi (@evfrieden) November 12, 2019
Photo shoot: 350— Lady Elizabeth (@MyLadyElizabeth) November 12, 2019
Monthly ads: 250
Latex dress: 300
Designer heels: 200
Dungeon facility: 1/2 my mortgage
TENS unit: 400
Leather hood: 300
Whips: 200 ea
20 hrs/wk marketing/emails: unpaid
Health insurance: unpaid
Sick days: unpaid
10+ years training: priceless
Going to a pro-domme is a luxury. If they can't afford a pro-domme, boo hoo.— 𝕄𝕚𝕤𝕥𝕣𝕖𝕤𝕤 𝔸𝕝𝕝𝕖𝕣𝕚𝕒 𝕄𝕪𝕤𝕥𝕚𝕔 1K 🕷 (@AlleriaMystic) November 12, 2019
Should Porsche make their cars cheaper too?
And yes, they have overhead – tools, toys, rent, maintenance of a dungeon, etc.
Sorry but not everything is in everyone's price range.
I always find the level of entitlement reflected in these types of "questions" staggering.— Toby Dammit (@DammitToby) November 12, 2019
You will almost never see social media screeds about contracting costs for lawyers, plumbers, chefs, etc, only SWers and it reeks of "I, as man, am owed this." 🤮
That honestly sounds like a whiny personal problem. If he doesn’t like it then why doesn’t he go make more money? His argument is moot. Every business ever would make more money if they lowered the costs of their services. 🙄— ChibiGoddess🇺🇸 #EsportsSummitATL (@AsianFinDomme) November 12, 2019
He’s just being a brat.
Good job, Prodomme Twitter! Do you have any other reasons why you charge what you charge or do you think this reader just wanted to stir a pot? Let us know in the comments below!